7 Lessons from 7 Years of Marriage
Happy almost weekend! This was one of those weeks in our life that was filled with so much celebration. Let's rewind back to Sunday for a second. We celebrated Mother's Day, our 7 year wedding anniversary, AND hosted our sister's baby shower- all on the same day! It was such a whirlwind of a day trying to soak up everything in the moment. When we finally got the chance to sit down and unwind, we couldn't help but feel so overwhelmed by the blessings of life.
We reflected on the past 7 years. The commitment we made to be together. 7 years and 2 kids later, we feel like we're just getting started.
Don't get us wrong, our marriage definitely has its fair share of trials. Season after season we've faced some big mountains and have had to learn how to navigate through storms and practice being better teammates in both life and business. Nevertheless, these past 7 years have been the best years of our life. We wouldn't trade them for anything. We've learned some key things about marriage and have also been able to debunk some of the myths and lies that society assigns to marriage. We wanted to take this opportunity today to share from our own personal experience of what marriage means to us and 7 important things it has taught us.
First, we have to define what marriage means. Everyone has their own definition, but at the core of who we are and our faith, this is the definition that's most true to us: The marriage covenant was intended to reflect the love and relationship between Christ and His church. The Bible records, in Ephesians 5:31-32- "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Thank you, Rev. Arthur Ball)
Keyword for us: Covenant. Stevie + Sazan and the cross (Jesus) in the center of that marriage.
- Never let your ego get in the way or be too proud to ask for advice.
- Don't be blind to checking in on what the other person needs. Marriage is a two-way street.
- Always check your attitude. We always remind ourselves that our attitude will dictate the decisions of our day. Choosing a positive attitude and filling your cup with grace can set the tone in your household and in your marriage.
- Be vulnerable in your communication. What do we mean by that? Be willing to admit your faults, talk about your insecurities without shame, and create a safe space in your marriage where you can always let your guard down with each other and be open/raw/real.
- Serve each other well. Create a culture within your marriage where you both step up to serve one another to help lighten their load.
- Never punch below the belt. We've learned we're a team, and there's just certain things we cannot say to one another.
- No matter what, always choose each other and you'll get through anything. The going gets tough, adding life, babies, and business into the mix. We've felt at times there's so many storms and battles that feel like we can't win or catch a break, but no matter what we're going through we always choose each other.
Let's face it, committing to anything in life isn't easy, and it requires consistency. But can we just say, it has been the best work we've put into life by far and a decision we're so happy we made. Love is more than just butterflies and laughter and saying "I Do" at an altar. It's learning how to say "I Do" every single day. It's learning how to love in verb form and taking real action.
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